What is your husband is doing in Costa Rica?. You’re not sure what to do. I can help you. Before worrying about that decision, let’s focus first on what you should not do. Most women react hastily when they something is amiss with their loved one and suspect it is more than a “gut feeling”. They let anger, fear, hurt, or revenge drive them to do things they later regret, things, which make it difficult or impossible to implement any worthwhile infidelity solutions they may later receive.
Don’t ignore the situation and pretend it’s not happening.
If your husband is doing something that has the potential to damage you or your family, denying the conduct will only make matters worse. As troublesome as it is to find out that your husband has been doing things he shouldn’t, you need to face the reality of the situation. Ignoring this gives him the go-ahead to continue his indiscretions. Pretending it’s not happening will make him think he’s getting away with his activities, or give him the impression that he has your implied approval. Remember, that affairs thrive in secrecy.
Don’t confront him without a Plan, Proof, and a Purpose.
This where I can help you. Most experts agree that you should confront your husband about his cheating. But you need to have a plan.
DO NOT ask your husband if he’s cheating. Liars will always lie. Present the evidence you’ve gathered that proves he’s having an affair, names, dates, places, times, absences, phone calls, physical evidence, and the video evidence that we collect for you. We will work with you and help you with a strategy that will assist you in your decision on whether or not to terminate the marriage or ways to salvage it. Then ask him some pointed questions about his affair: why he did it, how it started, how long it’s been going on, how he feels about the other woman, what he intends to do now that you know. Listen carefully to his answers so you can accurately assess the situation. Then you’ll be able to make a wise decision about what course of action to take.
DO NOT CONFRONT YOUR HUSBAND WITHOUT PROOF OF HIS LIES. To do so will be a colossal waste of time. Unless you can prove he’s been lying, the information-gathering phase will never get off the ground.